Yes, apparently to healthyaddict, a man volunteering to do the dishes for a woman is sexist. So would it be less sexist to let the woman do the dishes—along with the rest of the house work? Wouldn’t that imply that women are only good for cooking and cleaning? Wouldn’t that be forcing them to conform to sexist gender roles?
Good grief. It’s sexist if you do, sexist if you don’t.
Thankfully, Coughlan000 made an excellent rebuttal to this nonsense:
If sexism, in any way, or prejudice manifested itself in the worst way possible, and that worst way happened to be people holding doors open for you, we’ve kind of won at that point, haven’t we?
I really hate that some people have made it so that men think that if they do something nice for a woman she will think they're sexists. Case in point: I used to live in a college dormitory, and to get in the front door we had to use our key-cards. Of course, the key-lock had to be put in the most inconvenient place possible, so that if you were carrying something it was almost impossible to get in the door. Putting your stuff down wasn't an option because you literally had five seconds to open the door before the lock timed out and reset, so you wouldn't have time to pick your stuff back up.
ReplyDeleteOne day I was trying to get in the door with several cases of soda around 10:00 PM, and I just couldn't get the door open. Because everyone was either out with their friends or studying, there was no one wandering around to help me out. Finally, a male student wandered by and saw I was having trouble getting the door opened, so he helped me. When I thanked him, he looked surprised and said he was glad I didn't get mad at him. Why the heck would I get mad at someone who helped me? Apparently this idea that helping people open doors is sexist has embedded itself into collective consciousness. And here I thought it was just polite- I was raised to help someone with the door if they had a lot of stuff to carry, no matter what their gender was. And if I open the door for another woman, does that mean I'm sexist against my own gender?! How does that even make sense?!
I know this is an old post, and I'm just some random Internet user, but this topic pisses me off. I, and the majority of women I know, will not get angry if you open the door for us.